Rules and Etiquette
We all want to have fun with the people we meet, the best way to achieve this is by adhering to good old fashioned good manners, and treating everyone you contact or meet with the respect you want them to show you.
Courtesy Works
Everyone in this scene has their own unique set of reasons for being here. Be polite when meeting fellow guests, be friendly and open when talking to them. If there is a connection and play is involved, thank them afterwards.
Make no enemies. Whether or not you are personally interested in someone, be polite. You may share many other interests or you may meet that person again. They may introduce you to someone with whom you ARE compatible and do wish to share time.
Be Responsive
The party hosts spend a lot of time making arrangements for parties. We have to choose who to invite, send the invitations, prepare the venue, the entertainment, food, and other misc. preparations.
If the host chooses to invite you, common decency would suggest that you should respond. A simple "no" is better than no response. Leaving it to the day of the party to say yes or no makes it almost impossible for the host to screen the guest and change catering arrangements.
Be Prepared
We try to provide what you may need but we might not have everything you are looking for. Please bring what you personally are going to need with you. Carry a small overnight bag for lingerie or robe, hairbrush, comb, toothbrush, cologne/perfume, intimate cleansing articles, personal protection items, etc.
Personal Hygiene
Nothing turns a person off faster and more effectively than an unclean body or stale breath. Even if you shower and perfume yourself before you leave home, it is always a good idea to freshen up again when you arrive at your destination. Traveling more than a few miles will undo a lot of your personal grooming.
Have Respect for the Feeling of Others
Be aware, just like you, not everyone is comfortable in all situations. Keep your eyes open for signs that your partner, as well as others, is relaxed and enjoying themselves. If someone is not comfortable, try helping them over the rough spots. Remember, you were a beginner once yourself. If it is obvious that things are not working out, remain polite and courteous; but alert the host. Keep in mind that not all people feel the same about things.
Avoid being pushy. If you are interested in someone, let them know in an friendly way; if they are interested, they will respond positively. If you are not interested, simply say "No, thank you". Do not ask WHY you were turned down. No amount of sweet talk or coersion on your part will change their mind and will probably work against you. Everyone has the right to say "NO" at all times, to anyone, without explanation. Never forget that.
Keep it Fun. Do not allow yourself to become involved with anybody that you are not interested in. There is no reason to involve yourself in a scene that you are not comfortable with. You are at the party to enjoy yourself.
Drugs and Alcohol
No drugs on the premises, no exceptions.
Many of us drink socially. At times, a few drinks are nice to help you "relax". Over indulging may hamper your physical abilities, as well as offend or turn other people off. If you have to over indulge in order to participate, you are involved in the wrong lifestyle. Heavy intoxication is prohibited and you will be asked to leave.
Safe Sex
It is up to us all to protect ourselves as well as our partners.
The use of personal protection items should not offend anybody. Anyone not willing to take this precaution is acting selfishly and irresponsibly.
THIS IS A SOCIAL CLUB WHERE YOU CAN RELAX, BE YOURSELF, AND HAVE FUN IN A SAFE AND FRIENDLY ENVIRONMENT.